Sexscapades with a Capital "H.S."

What's that, you ask??? "HS"?? "Sexscapades" doesn't even have an "h" in it?! No, you are absolutely correct. Actually, the "H. S." stands for HOLY SHIT! I have had some pretty crazy ladies nights in the past, but last night beat all others, hands down! Let me begin by filling you in a little on our extracurricular sex life...

All these years, when Hubby and/or I find playmates, it has always been on a whim. In other words, we go out & meet people, hang out, party together, or what ever, but basically, if we find someone we're interested in, we clue them in, and if they are agreeable, we take them home and play. :) For the most part, this has actually worked out well for us. I wouldn't say it was a regular thing, because we don't always go out looking for it, but it has happened often enough over the years that we can call it an on-going lifestyle for us.

I don't know if I have clarified this in the past, but if I haven't, I think now would probably be a good time to do so. .. Again, for the most part, the extracurricular sex in our life has been me going out and finding the playmates. On a rare occasion Hubby might find someone he was interested in, and we have had a few instances where we've swapped couples, but he has never really been that active in finding playmates for himself. Overall, he is more interested in watching me get f*ed by someone else, or enjoying the aftermath once I get home from a wild romp with someone. Does this make me a "hotwife"? I don't know. We've always just said we have an open marriage. Anyway...

Over the years, I've always had the desire to see Hubby be more active in the lifestyle, rather than simply standing by during the whole process, from the hunt right on through to the end. I think part of my desire might be out of guilt, because I feel, more often than not, like I'm the one having all the fun, and I'd love to see him have some fun of his own. That's not to say that he never has, but it is extremely rare. But, alas, he has always preferred to be more of a voyeur and captive audience to my stories. I've never really pushed the issue with him, assuming that if he really wanted it, he'd find it. Lately, though, with the pick-up of activity in my sexscapades, I am coming to realize more and more that Hubby really is content to watch and just hear the details... as long as he gets to f* me when it's all said and done. This is what he truly enjoys.

When it comes down to it, I really do enjoy when Hubby is present for the fun, whether he actively participates in some way, or just sits back and watches. But due to our work schedules being on completely opposite days, this just doesn't seem to happen anymore. While I have realized where his contentment lies, I still can't let go of wanting him to be more of a part of what's happening.

Well, lately I have found myself surrounded by pretty much the same group of people. For some reason, they always seem to be around when I go out, making it tough for me to sneak away and find new playmates when I want to. While this is okay for the most part, because I really do enjoy the group I hang out with, when you are hanging around the same people all the time, there is bound to be drama somewhere along the line - Mr. Yummy and Big T being a prime example. It also leaves me with slim pickin's, because I won't hop from one "friend" to the next when it comes to my sexscapades. If there is someone I'm interested in within the group I hang out with, if we hook up, that's the end of the line for me. I won't hook up with anyone else in that group. Never say never, but it's just not my way. I don't like to bed-hop among friends.

It just so happens that among this group of friends I hang out with, Mr. Yummy is who I chose for my prey, after he let me know he was "interested" - but we see where that has gotten me so far, right? lol Between the drama that has been going on, and my lack of selection, I have actually been contemplating giving the extracurricular sex life a break. It gets old after a while when you feel like all your doing is playing games. Games can be fun for a little while, but when there's no end result, it takes the fun completely out of it.

Well, one day while I was sitting at work, Mr. WS and I started text messaging each other, and he asked me if Hubby and I had ever used one of the adult websites to find playmates. I told him we hadn't, and he suggested we try one, or two...or three, LOL Prior to this, I would have never considered it. It just seemed to me that there were too many chances for weirdo's and freaks, and Hubby and I have always preferred to get to know people really well before we'd even consider suggesting a hook-up. But with the way things have been going lately, I decided that maybe Mr. WS's suggestion would be exactly what we needed to liven things up, so we went ahead and joined one of the websites.

Initially I was hesitant about where one of these sites could lead. I'm not really into "perverted", and I was sure that's all we would get. But we went ahead and filled out a profile, and sat back waiting to see what would happen. It didn't take long before we started getting hits on our profile, and shortly after that we started getting messages from people wanting to know if we wanted to get together.

I have to tell you that I was taken a little back by the amount of people who were interested. I called it the "fresh meat" stage, lol - because we were new to the site and, of course, the "new girl in town" means fresh meat for the pickings, lol I enjoyed this stage very much. ;) The compliments I received on my pics were enough to make Lady Lover blush more than once, LOL!

Hubby and I joined the site as a couple. This was also thrilling to me, because it meant that Hubby would finally get to participate in the process of finding playmates, as we can pick and choose who we would be willing to meet. And given the circumstances of it being an internet thing, there is no way in hell I would meet with anyone without Hubby being present - so the agreement was that Hubby and I would decide together who we would meet, and then we would go together and make the decision from there as to whether or not we would take it any further. The best part of all for me is that Hubby would have to be present for the fun if it went that far.

Through the messages we received for possible hook-ups, we started weeding out people we would be willing to even talk to, and then we started having conversations with some of the people to feel them out further. We finally settled on one couple that we had been talking with for a personal meet up. We scheduled an evening at a local bar once our schedules worked out, and we got together with them for a few drinks.

We spent about two hours sitting and chatting with this couple. We actually enjoyed just sitting there talking, but from a sexual standpoint, this couple just didn't do it for us. The woman, while nice enough, was just not Hubby's type in any way, shape, or form. And every time sex got brought up, I swear the guy needed a drool pan, and his eyes would get really big like he was ready to hop all over me. We won't even mention the fact that he just wasn't attractive, actually looking a bit greasy, if you know what I mean. And the more eager he became, the less attractive he was. At one point, the woman and I went the restroom together, and she confided in me that he also has another girlfriend. Well, as far as I care, the guy can have all the girlfriends he wants. But Hubby and I started to get the impression that this guy was just using this woman he was with to find more woman to screw. Something else that bothered us was that this guy was trying to act too much like a player. It wasn't attractive. And it doesn't help that, quite literally, two crack-whores walked up to our table while we were there, trying to hang all over this guy. Ewww. Not impressed.

Anyway, things just started to feel really wrong with this couple, so we tried to bow out gracefully. But then, every day for the next week, I was getting messages from this guy wanting us to come to his house and hop in his hot tub with him. Pushy people are a big turn off for me, so we finally ended up telling this couple that we decided we were going to put anymore meet-ups on hold, because Hubby would be leaving soon, and we wanted quality time together alone before he left. The next day we got a message from this woman, apologizing to us about how pushy he was. We haven't been in contact since.

Then we met another couple on-line through this site. At first it was the guy and I talking to each other, getting to know one another, when he eventually pops on me, "Oh, by the way, I have a girlfriend who is all part of this mix." That didn't bother me in the least, and she and I actually ended up chatting on-line as well. She and I hit it off really great! We spent about two weeks chatting on-line, and we finally set up a meeting in person, which leads me to telling you about last night...

Right now I'm pretty beat, as I'm still trying to recover from last night, lol - so I think I'm going to head to bed for now, and snuggle with Hubby until we fall asleep. ;) I'll try to be back soon to tell you the rest of this story. And believe me, it will be worth the wait!

xoxo